Deserving and Fun

“Oh, I don't deserve to have fun right now because I haven't done what I'm supposed to yet.”
​                          Oh, I'm sorry to hear that! How long has this been going on?  
​                          How much longer will it be before you can come have some fun?

Sure, there's nothing wrong with setting up a reward system for yourself. Goodness knows, I've set up many of these little personal gambits in order to achieve a goal. But please don't let the shouldas run roughshod into couldas and wouldas. How can you set up to minimize regrets and balance FOMO?

​Are all the “supposed ta,” the “hafta,” the “yahbut,” the “'cause” holding you back? Easy words that build such durable speed bumps. A friend had a fond memory of childhood camp arts and crafts come up recently when I posted a picture of some artsy-crafty stuff I did again for the first time in about 50 years. And it was a huge blast! Was I perfect? Did I achieve my ideals? Yeah, no, not so much. Did I have fun? Bucket-fulls! Was that better than perfection? Oh yeah!

I invited my friend to join in to see about putting some life into that fond memory. There was an immediate reason why she couldn't come out to play right away. Seems there was an archeological dig at home with her name on it (ie “clutter” to be wrangled). Ok, so yahbut you can't go 'cause you're supposed ta be doing that instead, right?

​Ok, we each do need to make our own choices in our lives. But couldn't both activities happen? Clearly not simultaneously but if your domicile is at archeological dig status, it didn't happen overnight and probably will take a bit of time to machete through. How about triaging the dig and setting up a treatment schedule? And couldn't the schedule fit in some Fun too? Look toward balance. Yes, satisfaction comes with cleanliness (or what-have-you) but it doesn't last long without some play.

                                      Hear me out, this is why I think it's A Very Good Idea to have some Fun.

1. Is there really a surfeit of Fun these days? Where's the balance?
2. What egregious transgression is on your record you don't deserve Fun? Who said so?
3. Doesn't sound like the Hafta is all that enticing of a prospect. Wouldn't a little dose of real Fun spark a more positive mood? It could happen. Eat dessert first once in a while. For breakfast.  
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 And should you find yourself with an overload of Fun, I'm sure you can find some Supposed-ta obligations     to pencil in.      Character is built in both camps. You're worth it!